Monday, October 10, 2011

Which Home Are You?

My goals in my life have always been to be a good wife, a good mother, & a good Gran!
 I have joined Courtney in this challenge. 
 It started the first of October.

Which Home are you?

Home #1

1. The woman of the home is distant. She is pulled into her computer, television, books, or text messages and it’s hard for the family to connect with her. She wonders why no one seems to listen to her? The children don’t obey her and her husband is insensitive.

2. The woman of the home is distracted. Her calendar is very full and her daily demands are so high it’s hard for her to focus and live in the moment with her husband and children. She is often late and rushing everyone and feeling guilty about being distracted but stuck in this rut of feeling overwhelmed and too busy.

3. The woman of the home is crabby. She is short on sleep, she hasn’t had a minute alone since the 1990′s and she really can’t see a light at the end of the tunnel to get a break. She is hopeless.

4. The woman of the home is discontent. She doesn’t like her home. She doesn’t like her husband. She doesn’t like one or all of her kids. She doesn’t like her church. She doesn’t like her neighbors. Truthfully, she doesn’t even like herself.

5. The woman of the home doesn’t pray. It’s counter cultural. She’s never lived in a home with a mom who prays. She doesn’t know other moms who pray. She wants to try praying but doesn’t know where to begin so she never begins.

Home #2

1. The woman of the home is engaged. She is aware of what everyone is doing right in that moment. If a child needs help or correction – she is right there to give it. If her husband needs a hug, an encouraging word or a helping hand she is right there to care. She is playful and makes time to tickle, dance, play checkers or Wii with her family. This is a woman whose family praises her (Prov. 31:28).

2. The woman of the home is wise with her time management. She guards her family from getting so busy that they lose their connection with each other. She dissects her calendar and eliminates things that are unnecessary. She is prepared when it is time to go somewhere to alleviate the stress that comes from late minute rushing. She and her family enjoy the slow paced life she has created in her home.

3. The woman of the home has a pleasant demeanor. She does not stay up late watching television, reading, surfing the web or working. She goes to sleep at a reasonable hour so she can wake cheerfully for her family. She knows that some seasons of life are harder than others so she is patient with her season of life and is confident that she will reap what she has sown. She works diligently trusting God with the results of her labor.

4. The woman of the home is content. She knows that no home, husband, child, church or neighborhood is perfect. So she chooses to be content with what God has given her for today.

5. The woman of the home prays. She knows that she is weak but God is strong and that she cannot fulfil the role of wife, mother, homemaker and sometimes employee, on her own strength. She is completely dependent on God and practices this dependence by daily praying for all of these things.

I know which home I strive to be.
I want to be a "Proverbs 14:1 woman.
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Make Your Home A Haven Challenge
Light a candle everyday and say a prayer for peace in your home.
If you would like to join in with this challenge you can go Here!
Thank you Courtney for your ministry.
I hope to pass it on.

Challenges that make us stop and think and do something.


Anonymous said...

This is a great post, Val. Striving to live in Home #2 is a worthy goal. Life in these days is challenging for women.

Wanda said...

Thank you Val, I needed this today. I have always wanted to have #2 but due to health issues it has been more like #1. I needed this reminder.


Angela said...

Hi Val, hmmm,,, love this beautiful post. Sure makes us examine ourselves this morning. I definitely strive to have Home #2 However I have to admit there are days when the calendar needs a bigger square to write in the to do list for that day. I thought when we were older things would slow a bit but Time is not on our side. It seems to go by faster now and I am slowing down can't seem to get done what I could when younger, thus I still am rushed. But I am blessed to have a wonderful Home and Family whom I love and adore and they do me with all my faults.
Snuggle that precious "Little Brudder" in your arms and give him a kiss from me.

Jenn said...

Heehee...I am bordering on home #1, #3...crabby and sleep-deprived. No seriously, that scenario is very sad. I love my home, my kids, my husband, my family, my life... :)

Anonymous said...

I hope I'm the woman that knows how to pray and be content! :)