YOU MIGHT JUST GET IT!
I find myself often complaining a lot about having no time for myself. I try to be everything to everyone because that is my hearts desire. On my birthday, I even told one of my daughters that I wished I could have one day, just for me, to be a little lazy. That is something you don't find me doing. I always have a lot to do. Well, the last 3 days, I have been in bed sick. I have missed a funeral that I should have been at. I have not got to visit or help with my best friends dad who is now in rehab and doing well. (Please keep praying for him). I have not been with my husband, children, or grandchildren. I will not get to go to church tonight. I could go on and on. I have had my "ME" day and I AM OVER IT! I am sick & tired of being sick! I am a lot better today, thanks to prayers, 2 shots and meds.! When I got to where I could hold my head up, I was reading some blogs and ran across one that talked about whining and complaining. It talked about taking 21 days and trying to form a habit of not whining, judging, gossiping, etc. It talked about guarding or watching our mouth. At our church we are taught about how powerful the tongue is. We are taught that there are things we can just leave off. I didn't really think I had a problem with this until I read this article. But I found out I do need help. As I layed in bed this week being sick, I thought about how I complained about what all I have to do, all the time. Now here I am sick and not able to do anything. Then, I read this article. Is this that "Still Small Voice" speaking to me??? Well, I am taking the challenge and listening very closely.
If I remember right, here is the way it goes:
It takes 21 days to form a habit.
You wear a bracelet on one wrist. If you realize you are complaining, grumbling, whining, criticizing, gossiping, judging, murmuring, etc. - then you switch the bracelet to the other arm and start your 21 days over. I read that it may take us months to form this habit. I would guess that you could use anything, a pin, a ring, or even a rubberband. It even talked about, if you are doing this with others and you catch them complaining & you bring this to their attention, then you need to switch your bracelet first. I thought that was awesome because that shows we are just pointing out others faults. I just loved this. This has really made me open my eyes. This really makes you stop and think before giving your opinion or complaining. This has even changed my thought pattern. This may sound silly to some but it has just made me STOP & THINK! One person described this journey as throwing yourself into reverse. I don't know if I will use a bracelet as a reminder or what, but this has caused a big RED LIGHT in my mind. So instead of whining about things, my goal is to use CAUTION before I have the GREEN LIGHT to speak. This will not be a 21 day challenge for me.This will be a lifetime challenge & goal. I know I will fail many times but I have asked the Lord to help me and I know where my help comes from. My help comes from the Lord.
STOP LOOK LISTEN
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness, She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
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